Sunday, July 17, 2011

Cyberbullying... Can't Explain It Any Other Way

"If you bully somebody face to face, and they get upset, you see them cry and be hurt. When it's over the Internet, you can't see the emotional reaction and go along thinking it's no big deal."

-Robin Kowalski

Hey everyone, Chris here with a very important topic today; cyberbullying. This is for everyone who is being bullied through the internet, whether through Facebook, MySpace, or any other social networking websites. This blog is for the people who have thought of harming themselves or taking their lives because of cyberbullying. These social networks were
meant to be used for connecting with old friends, new friends, and making strong connections with people. However, some people don't use it as a friendship maker; they use it as a tool of bullying. As the quote says, when people bully others face to face, you can see the emotions. When you bully people through the internet or via texting, no emotion can be seen. So that bully won't
think they're actually bullying someone.

What is cyberbully? Cyberbullying is when someone uses the internet, or text messages (social networking websites, email, etc.) to bully or harass someone. This can have a extreme effect on someone. Not only is that one bully attacking you, there are other people who jump on it and attack you. It's just like being against an army of people who hate you. It might not be people who you even know. In fact, that person might be bullying you because of a rumor they made up or heard. It's hard to tell your side of the story when people believe in rumors and lies they heard from someone else.

Personally, I don't like bullies. I don't understand why some people attack others because they're different. That makes me angry. But still I watched the movie Cyberbully on ABC Family. When I
watched it, I was absolutely shocked at what I saw. It wasn't right. I was even more shocked at how other people jumped on the bullying train and attacked her. So what is the best thing to do. Tell someone. There is nothing wrong with asking people for help, especially when you need it. Help can benefit you in these types of situations. And always remember to watch what you say on the internet, no matter who you are. Also, don't believe in rumors. Ask the person that the rumor is about if its true or not. This is Chris Alford, and that is what I have to say.

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Maturity: Some People Need It

"Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers. It may not be difficult to store up in the mind a vast quantity of face within a comparatively short time, but the ability to form judgments requires the severe discipline of hard work and the tempering heat of experience and maturity."- Calvin Coolidge

Hey everyone, Chris here with another blog enrty. We're gonna talk about Maturity. Now some of the things I say on here is true because its happened to me during the past week. Just a fair warning. So let's begin.

If you haven't read the previous entry "Change: It Happens To All of Us", then you might want to read that one first. So as I said I told my associate that I'm gonna be busy with college and other things. So on Thursday, I went to Chestnut Hill College for my Griffin Day. And I can say it was very good. I took some placement test, had breakfast and lunch, met some new people and had fun (even got a hoodie and foam finger). I was there till 3:30 in
the afternoon. So that's what started it all.

I came home and I went to sleep. I didn't talk to my associate all day because I was busy all
day. I wake up from my nap and I realized that it was 7. So I ate and relaxed. Around 10 at night, something told me to check my phone. So I checked it and I see a text from her. I open it and it said, "I cut ur name on my chest so i'll never forget. Thought u should kno." Seeing, that I was shocked and angry. And there's a couple of reasons for these emotions:

1. Why would harm yourself that way? I already knew she was a cutter, but not to go that far.
2. That seems a little crazy and stalker-ish. I knew she liked me, but I told her on several occasions that we're only friends.
3. It seems a little immature to do that. I told her that I'm gonna be busy, so talking was limited for a while. And I did explain that to here several times.

So I talk to her via Facebook about the text and why she did that. We argued for about 5 minutes, and she logs off. I text her to continue this. She told me "Idc wat u gotta say! It was my choice! It cnt b changed now" So throughout all this time (about 2-3 days), she got angry because I was gonna be busy with college things and other things. That's a huge sign of immaturity. She couldn't handle the fact that I'm not in high school anymore, and that I'm gonna be doing bigger things that are going to help my future. What can we learn from this: You have to be mature about certain things and realize you can't have everything you want. Also, realize change is good sometimes. Throughout these two blogs, I haven't revealed her name. The reason for this is that even though I don't want her to speak to me anymore, I still have a conscious and I know she wouldn't want people to find out about this. Readers, you will never know her name. I'm gonna end this with one more maturity quote.

"Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension."

-This is Chris Alford, and that is what I have to say.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Change: It Happens To All of Us

Hello everyone, Chris here with a new blog entry. I'm asking everyone to continue to read this blog and to follow, comment, and spread the word about the blog. I would really appreciate it.

I just got my haircut and it feels good to
have it. I feel like I've changed during these
few months after graduation. And that is what we're gonna talk about today; Change. We all go through change, no matter what. We can have good change or bad change. And when it comes to change, some people can't handle it or the people around you don't want you to change. The fact that you're changing is something good. This can vary from the style of clothes you wear (ex. Cartoon T-shirts to polos), or the way you think; which shows you're maturing. Change is also a good form of showing maturity. Let's begin.

Well start with an example. I'll use myself. When it comes to me and chang
e, I stopped doing certain things that were childish, such as getting excited over things. Anime has been taken out of my system as if it was a drug (I was an otaku when I was 16 and 17 years old). I actually started to watch sports (especially soccer), and I like it. There are many other things that I could say that shows my form of change, but it would probably take long to go through. What I learned about myself through this change was that I was becoming more and more one-dimensional as the days went on. Before, I didn't talk to people that much unless it was about anime, and games. Its a good thing I learned now before my fall semester starts.

Now with change, some people might not like it. Once again I'll use myself
as an example. Yesterday, one of my associates talked to me on Facebook (she texted me a lot the same day, but I never answered). She thought that since I'm
going to college, I'm gonna change and not talk to her anymore. After that we argued and she told me to do whatever I want. There's a lack of maturity right there. I say that because Her anger sparked very quickly and she didn't take into consideration that I'm in college, and you're a sophomore in high school. I'm going to be very busy with a lot of stuff, and it doesn't really look right for me to talk to someone who is so young. I have just the video for what I just said.*

In conclusion, change is going to happen no matter what. Some people will like it, while others won't. But does it really matter what others think of your change? My opinion, no. My reason for saying that is because people will have their opinions about you, whether you change or not. Some people might say that your faking this change, or that you're the same person that I've know. Others might say I like this new version of you, or that you really matured. Change for yourself and change because you want to.

This is Chris Alford signing off!!!

*She too you for you if.... by Jerry LaVinge Jr.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Support: Giving It & Not Overdoing It

Hello everyone, whether you're following this blog or just randomly scrolling through blogs and somehow landing on this one. Also giving a shout-out to my readers out in Canada, Germany, and across the United States (you know who you are). Thanks for reading my blogs and continue to read and follow them.

Today we are going to talk about support, giving it and to not overdo it. You're probably wondering; Why is there a picture of King of The Hill on here? Is this a show review? Well to answer the second question, no this is now a show review. For the first question, this is a scene from the episode Bad News Bill*. In this episode, the main theme is support. If you watched the show from the beginning, you see that Hank Hill doesn't really support his son Bobby for many reasons (just watch the show if you haven't). In this episode, it can really be seen. One example is that the coach tells Hank that he wasn't supportive of Bobby when it comes to baseball. Now this is true, and Peggy tells Hank that he wasn't that much of a supportive father.

The coach now gives Bobby support and this is where we shall start at. It was alright for the coach to give Bobby support, since Hank wasn't giving it. It helped Bobby gain confidence, and that has to be the best product of support. However, the coach overdid the support. It made Bobby think he was a very good player (which he isn't). So to simplify what the coach did, he got his expectation up too high.

Now what we need to learn to do is to give support but to not overdo it. Just like with the coach, there is a chance that we may give that person extremely high expectations. With that, when that person fails, they'll feel like crap. See what you can learn from television. That's all for this one. My opinion on this is that give support from the beginning. And to remember to say things out of love. If the person is bad at something, say it out of love and talk about the things they are good at. You're helping them out by telling them the truth and not giving them an illusion.

This is Chris Alford signing off!!!

King of The Hill © FOX, Mike Judge, and Greg Daniels

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Drama and Stupid Ish: Your SMH Moments

Well hello everyone, today is July 10, 2011 and last week was fun and irritating in so many ways. I'm not gonna go into too much detail in, but you can guess what happened based on the picture. So what we're gonna talk about today is drama and stupid ish. More specifically how to deal with it. Please note that this is my way to deal with this type of stuff. You may have other way, and they might be better than mine. You may get a laugh out of it and you might get angry, but please enjoy it. Let's begin.

Work started this week for me, and it was pretty good. What I'm gonna talking about in the next couple of paragraphs is what happened before work. So I'm in the car on the way there, and my cousin is telling me something he heard about one of my friends. This friend of mine during the school year was pregnant, but lost the baby. However, my cousin told me that she was pregnant 3 times before and lost those kids. I was sad, but then I got a little angry at the fact of how stupid she is. See the picture up there... You guessed it; her boyfriend is much older than her. She's 17 and he's about 24 or 25 years old. I can understand the first time you got pregnant was a mistake, but the other 3 times you were really trying. And another thing you should know is that she is planning to marry this guy when she's 18. At first, I thought she was an airhead, but she is literally the epitome of the word stupid. And here are the reasons:

1. This dude is TOO OLD: I think that one is quite basic to understand. And if he's having sex with her, that's statutory rape.
2. You still have a life to live: You're still in high school, and you still got college to think about. She probably won't listen to me because she might think or me as a loser.

Also I have a feeling that your mother is a little stupid, or she must be in here own little world. Truly a SMH moment. Well thats the biggest amount of drama and stupid ish I ever heard. Well just like in Sonic CD, "I'M OUTTA HERE!" Y'all have a good night...